Really good. Interesting to me is that I am an older man, retired, widowed, and most of a certain type of articles about love, relationships, committment, etc, seem pointed toward women. I am sorry that so many men are likely uncommitted. Following my wife’s death more than 12 years ago, I met a few women who were nice and we had casual, but non-sexual casual relationships. For me that means casual like, let’ s have lunch or coffee. I had been married 35 years before my wife passed. I did not know how to act around another woman, was it ok to have another relationship? Etc. Had a nice relationship with a rather self-involved woman but she drifted away and became uninterested in m except as “friend”. I tend to “Fall in Love” and then have a committed sexual relationship. (I can’ t believe I am admitting this to the world, but at my age I might as well be open about some things; I am learning more and more about myself). Then I met a wonderful woman, 20 years my junior, divorced, who shared my commitment to social action, charity, etc. WE had a great relationship for over a year, then she backed out, no explanation. Unable to discuss these difficult intimate feelings. So, I seem attracted to women who want “friendship”. I do too, but want more emotion coming back and not everyone can give this emotion. Some physical would be nice too, even at my age, but that is becoming less likely. Still, this article is great, well-written about a type of person who keeps their distance. Hard to find the right type of person but one should not give yourself away as not being worth it. I agree. Concluding, although my wife and I had many issues, was really difficult, it was worth it and she is the one who taught me about loving and commitment. Thank you to Hermine for that.