Very well written Sarah. As a man I also find it strange that almost no one comes down on men for causing the pregnancy. One finds this in politicians, religious people, and lay people. It is only the women who they blame. I wrote an article once that men should be willing to be sterilized or castrated if they cannot accept responsibility for a birth. Men need to refrain from sex or actively work with the female partner to prevent conception if neither partner wishes to create a child. Thanks for writing this.